After having had a miscarriage I have realised I really want another child. I just don’t know if I could risk loosing it again. I have been thinking about adopting. I need to be a mum again I know people will think I am mad because I have three young boys. I would love to have a daughter that’s the problem. I want to have the girlie nights in and shopping trips. My boys don’t want to know lol which of course is ok. I just have this ache within me and I need to deal with it I know. Today has been a bad day I have felt really down. I sat in th car and cried for my lost baby. I know other members of my family especially my husband lost a child too. I know I am being selfish but I just cant help my feelings. Each day I think today will be ok and I then just need someone to ask me how I am and I crumble. Grief is a very hard thing to deal with I know I have had my share. I wish I could erase 2007 from my life and even the start of this year its been crap. I know I have to pull myself together but sometimes I just want to scream WHY ME ! WHAT HAVE I DONE. I try to be a good person and treat someone right so I really don’t understand why I just keep getting more and more crap. I feel like everyone is laughing at me. Maybe I need to check if I have a target on my back.
You have no target on your back. You are not selfish love. You will get the daughter you crave, somehow. I promise
It’s perfectly okay to cry for the baby you lost. You haven’t done anything wrong. No one is laughing.
Sounds like you have some good support. Talking helps! Use your support system!
My wife lost a couple mid-pregnancy and this is still an issue years later. We have three now.
This is not something that you have to forget about. I think the hard thing for good and decent parents to think about is how we can have these issues and see all of the children in this world born to people who don’t care and can’t take care of themselves.
As a husband, I know that I couldn’t do much for my wife with the miscarriages. There are no magic words that make the pain go away. We would just hug our kids and try to realize that each and everyone of them are treasures.
Keep trying and hug your boys, if you can keep them still long enough!